Tuesday, August 21, 2012

How much does it takes to care for your loved ones?

Recently, MooMoo just went back home for a few days.  MooMoo realized that her house had turned into a mini clinic with all the medicines, chemicals, syringes, etc.  There's really a lot of learning in order to take care of your sick loved ones at home.

It is always easier to care for your loved ones when everyone's just healthy and living well.  Things would be just so different when your loved ones as sick or dying.  People always say that it's always so easy to find someone who loves you and share happiness with you... but when it comes to sharing sufferings and go through hard times with you, it is more difficult.  Then, when you're in your death bed, you will know who are the ones that really care for you.

How much are you willing to sacrifice for your loved ones?  In this current world, not many who are willing to sacrifice for their loved ones... sad but true... some love for a reason and expect more than giving... if you were to love 100%, would you expect 100% of love in return?  It is rarely happening... therefore, some would rather not love 100%.  Of course, there are some out there who gives 100% or more and never expect anything in return, which is great.

If your loved ones are dying on their death bed, would you take leave or quit your job just to be with your loved ones throughout his/her remaining life?  Or would you just still go to work like normal?  Guess this would be all up to each individual's priority in life and how much does your loved ones mean to you in life.  Career VS Loved ones?!? = p  Is just providing $$$ enough?!?  Or you just need to spare some of your valuable time, care and love?!?

MooMoo's brother is now basically living on the nutrition pack through Intravenous (IV) Drip, as he no longer can intake any food.  It is really saddening to see him so weak and fragile.  MooMoo was really shocked that each time she visited him, he lost so much weight that she almost could not recognised him.  MooMoo almost teared when she helped him massage his super thin hands and legs.
No matter how great or how tough one person is, when you're sick and dying... everyone would be the same... as you will be weak and fragile, like a baby.  Guess that's how God made us all.

MooMoo have never been super close with her brother since young but she knows that her brother does love her a lot, in his own ways.  Though MooMoo always quarrel with her brother, she still loves him so.  It was pretty shocking when MooMoo's brother actually requested her to hold his hand for at least 1/2 hour without letting go... as far as MooMoo recall, she never really hold his hand... only when they were still little kids.  MooMoo grew up in a very Asian Chinese family, which is not very open with hugging and kissing each other, as a family member.  With his ego, he would have never ask MooMoo to hold his hand but MooMoo realized that he has changed so much physically and mentally.

Of course, MooMoo agreed to hold her brother's hand for at least 30 minutes without letting go.  MooMoo controlled herself trying not to tear in front of him and spent some time talking to him.  The way he have spoken is like bidding farewell.  MooMoo is always scolding him for giving up so easily but after spoken to him, guess it may be good for him to be off from all the pain as soon as possible.  It has been very tough on him going through all the never-ending pain and sufferings.  He is also worrying on the cost spent on him, living such a meaningless and painful life.

MooMoo really don't know what is right and what is wrong... Is it wrong to decide when you should go off yourself as you have enough?  In Catholic beliefs, it may be wrong as it is seen as taking your own life when God's the one who determines when you die?!?  Is it right to support the decision if he choose to let go?!?  Is it good that we keep making him to hang on and suffer futher?!?

Anyway, MooMoo just hope the best for him and may God release him from all the sufferings and pain that he goes through as soon as possible.  May God grant him peace when it's his time.

May God bless everyone with good health. ^=^


* Living a LIFE may not be 'FREE'... especially when you're sick... When MooMoo was younger, she used to think of $$$ as very BIG.... Then, she learnt that $$$ is not everything and to her, it's not that important after all... BUT can one live a LIFE without $$$?!?  *Sigh*

1 comment:

chuasteph said...

oh God bless all of you moo. *hugs*