Quote: Praise vs Critism

"The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism."--- Norman Vincent Peale


Points to Ponder....


Well, it is very TRUE that due to human nature, we love to hear nice comments rather than bad critisms, whether it is true or false. Everyone loves good news. Who loves bad news?!? Would anyone like it if everyday people tell you that you are UGLY or STUPID?!?

I strongly believe that critism can help in many ways.... BUT provided that it is a constructive critism that is true and not some mere sacarstic critisms. And not all praises praises ruin people if it is given at the right time and of course, not praising for the sake of praising without any basis.

It would be cruel of you to tell this girl who is checking out on a new skirt which make her look so fat in it, that she looks great and slim in it. Then, by believing that it is true, she would buy the skirt and wearing it everywhere she go when the skirt does not suit her at all. I think you would do that only if she's your enemy. If she is your friend, you would have told her the truth and ask her to try out another skirt. BUT some people rather shower people with only nice comments and never any negative feedbacks to avoid conflicts and making people unhappy. Sometimes, it can be good but it could be bad as well, depending on the situations. I also believe the saying "If you got nothing nice to say, just stay silence...." but sometimes, just can't help it especially if you are one who can't keep still and quiet even for a minute. ^=^

If you keep telling a child that he/she is UGLY/STUPID everyday eventhough it is not true, the kiddo will grow up believing that he/she is UGLY/STUPID. If the kid is not good looking, it would be better in a way, that you tell them that "Beauty is in the eyes of beholder" - which is quite true, where everybody have their preferences in beautiful things/people. In this way, it is a Win-Win situation without hurting anyone.

As for Praises, it is not something bad but most Asians are not used to praises. Sometimes, by giving some praises at the right time, it could actually help create better relationships, boost confidence, motivates people as well as making people happy around you. If you keep criticising your kids everyday, they might possibly grow up to be a negative fellow. And if you keep praising your kids everyday, it does not mean that your kid would grow up being a positive fellow. You cannot be praising your kids everyday for no reasons right?!? Well, if you praise them when they do good and constructively critisize them when they are not doing well by giving them feedback as well as encouragement, I'm sure they will grow up to be a GREAT kid.

So, please don't be stingy with your praises and before you criticize, think twice. Once words are out of your mouth, it cannot be recovered. Therefore, make sure that your words are always soft coz sometimes you may have to swallow it back. Else, remember the phrase earlier on.... "If you got nothing nice to say, just stay silence...." ^=^